When it comes to relationships, researchers have discovered that it’s not how often people text one another that matters, but how “text compatible” they are. I watched a video podcast where three guys were interviewed and was asked this question ” how would you want to constantly communicate with your spouse”? Funny enough, the three young men gave three different answers.
Mr A said – He prefers texting his spouse. He likes it when he constantly text his spouse, he’s not so much of the calling type. When talking about relationships, researchers have discovered that it’s not how often people text one another that matters, but how “text compatible” they are. Scientists also have discovered that aside from being a functional way to communicate, texting allows people to escape their present situation. People text because they are bored or because they feel it’s a better way to express themselves rather than talking on the phone or in person.
As mentioned previously, texting has the power to be a good thing. But, issues comes up when it becomes your main mode of communication. Too many times there is a lot of miscommunication that takes place, altering the entire course of the relationship. Texting a compliment, a funny meme, or a positive comment, will make the person on the other end feel closer to you and more satisfied with the relationship. Just as Mr A would want it. Likewise, checking in on someone or just letting them know that you’re thinking of them can strengthen the relationship too. Consequently, this would also mean regularly sending encouraging notes to your spouse/partner. This works best for those of us that prefers texting over calling.
Mr B said – FaceTime. And it’s very convenient for him to facetime, cos he’d love to see his woman, hear her voice at any given opportunity. One of the most obvious advantages to video calling/facetime is that it is a fun and convenient way of keeping in touch with friends, family and loved ones. Mr B said “with video call I can observe the real emotions of my person”. Facetime is actually a great medium to feel the presence of your partner faraway from you. Unlike calls, you would be able to see their facial expression when you video chat which means that you are going to get closer with them and you are going to be able to express yourself better at the same time. Surely, this is something that you would want and know that will help your relationship grow at the same time. You want to make sure that you understand how the love of your life feels about you, and what better way to do that than to make sure that you will be able to observe their emotions.
Third Man said calling- calling his spouse and hearing her voice gives him that satisfaction he needs. In a world that is becoming increasingly stressed and more of us feel overwhelmed, anxious, and afraid, we need to know there is someone who has our back, who is there for us. We need real friends, real companions, real lovers who could just put a call across. A call when we need connection can be life-saving. A text just doesn’t get it. Words of love and encouragement that are given in real time by a real person, meant just for us can open our heart. Think back to a time when you first fell in love, that first wonderful stage of love…when all you would want to hear is that sweet melodious voice that calms you down, that voice you would always want to hear over and over again. Words on a screen don’t touch us nearly as deeply as words that are spoken. Though honestly speaking I’m not the calling type but then, there are some persons I wouldn’t want to miss hearing from them.
Bottom line of this piece is to encourage us to working towards a healthy and a beautiful relationship worthy of emulation from the outside world. Always have this in mind, that what works for you may not necessarily work for another. How your spouse treats you may not really be the same way your friend wants to be treated. People are different, people love differently. People tolerate different behaviors and characters from whoever they choose to. What should be your priority in any form of relationship is you finding out what is best for you and your spouse. Here’s wishing you a wonderful journey ahead. Always be intentional!!