In your mind’s eye, see yourself going to the funeral of a loved one. Picture yourself driving to the funeral parlor or chapel, parking the car, and getting out. As you walk inside the building, you notice the flowers, the soft organ music. You see the faces of friends and family you pass along the way. You feel the shared sorrow of losing, the joy of having known, that radiates from the hearts of the people there.
As you walk down to the front of the room and look inside the casket, you suddenly come face to face with yourself. This is your funeral, three years from today. All these people have come to honor you, to express feelings of love and appreciation for your life.
As you take a seat and wait for the services to begin, you look at the program in your hand. There are to be four speakers. The first is from your family, immediate and also extended—children, brothers, sisters, nephews, nieces, aunts, uncles, cousins, and grandparents who have come from all over the country to attend. The second speaker is one of your friends, someone who can give a sense of what you were as a person. The third speaker is from your work or profession. And the fourth is from your church or some community or organization where you’ve been involved in service.
Now think deeply. What would you like each of these speakers to say about you and your life? What kind of husband, wife, father, or mother, would you like their words to reflect What kind of son or daughter or cousin? What kind of friend? What kind of working associate?
What character would you like them to have seen in you? What contributions, what achievements would you want them to remember? Look carefully at the people around you. What difference would you like to have made in their lives?
This is a kind of mental exercise I engage myself in, consciously of course. I guess you know the answers to those questions? right now within yourself, answer them. What character would you want them to have seen you in? What contributions and achievements would you like them to remember you for?
You see, the most fundamental application of “begin with the end in mind” is to begin today with the image or picture of the end of your life as your frame of reference or the criterion by which everything else is examined. Each part of your life—today’s behavior, tomorrow’s behavior, next week’s behavior, next month’s behavior—can be examined in the context of the whole, of what really matters most to you. By keeping that end clearly in mind, you can make certain that whatever you do on any particular day does not violate the criteria you have. defined as supremely important, and that each day of your life contributes in a meaningful way to the vision you have of your life as a whole.
It’s incredibly easy to get caught up in an activity trap, in the busyness of life, to work harder and harder at climbing the ladder of success only to discover it’s leaning against the wrong wall. It is possible to be busy—very busy—without being very effective.
People often find themselves achieving victories that are empty, successes that have come at the expense of things they suddenly realize were far more valuable to them. People from every walk of life—doctors, academicians, actors, politicians, business professionals, athletes, and plumbers—often struggle to achieve a higher income, more recognition or a certain degree of professional competence, only to find that their drive to achieve their goal blinded them to the things that really mattered most and now are gone.
How different our lives are when we really know what is deeply important to us, and, keeping that picture in mind, we manage ourselves each day to be and to do what really matters most. If the ladder is not leaning against the right wall, every step we take just gets us to the wrong place faster. We may be very busy, we may be very efficient, but we will also be truly effective only when we begin with the end in mind.
I don’t really wanna bore you with long write up. I’m gonna end this with a story of my dad’s friend who thought was actually on the right tract but didn’t know something was missing in his journey of life. This friend of my dad who only believes in making money, struggling to achieving higher income and recognition forgetting about his personal life. How to be in a cordial relationship with people and all. Today he’s extremely rich and at the same time finding it difficult to relate with people, not really that per se, but he’s always getting in the way or always meeting with the wrong people. And most of them wanna be with him for the obvious reasons. Of course he’s rich. Being rich with no true, authentic love, being rich with no one to share that comfort with. People who come to him now are just people who are obviously after his money and fame. Temporary people, people with short time goals. His quest/derive for more recognition and higher income (to gain the whole world) has blinded him to the things that really mattered the most and now are gone. Balancing money making (work) and your personal life( be it relationship with a love one or love ones) is very very important. It’s actually not fruitful to focus on one and leave the other, nah! it isn’t done that way. This is why knowing your core values is really extremely important in your life. Give equal attention to your top most priorities.